I’m in an Arrangement with a Sugar Daddy I met a few months ago. We see each other a few times a week and I like spending time with him, and I like the perks, but it’s obviously not a long-term relationship, and I wouldn’t want it to be. He is a lot older than I am and not really my type. Our Arrangement is committed even though he is married, and it is also sexual/monogamous (outside of his wife). I met someone new when I was out with my girlfriends the other night. He is only a few years older than me, and we really hit it off. He is not Sugar Daddy material, and I didn’t think I wanted a relationship in the normal sense right now, but I kind of want to see where this goes. Is it awful of me to date them both and not tell the other? I don’t want this new guy to know I’m a Sugar Baby, and I don’t want to lose my Arrangement with my SD because I need the tuition money. What should I do?
Being a Sugar Baby is not always easy. No relationship is easy, but being in one you know is not going to be your Mr. Right can be hard. So many of us are raised to grow up and look for a life partner or husband, not a limited term rich guy who can take us on vacation and pay our rent, am I right? But being a Good Sugar Baby also entails enjoying the lifestyle for all it has to offer. It’s hard to be great at something when you don’t really want to be doing it, and it sounds like you’re questioning that. The best kind of Arrangement is one you want to be in – for more than the cash. Having great chemistry with your Sugar Daddy and enjoying his company makes all the difference in the world. Daddies can pay for sex if that’s what they want, but they choose a Sugar Date because they want the relationship. Be fair to both of you, and if you don’t want to be in this for anything more than cash, it might be time to get out. Cheating on your SD is definitely, 100 percent, absolutely NOT the way to go. And hiding your Sugar Dating Lifestyle from a new boyfriend is not going to end well either. Be upfront with your SD and ask if an open Arrangement is something he would be interested in. If not, you have to make a choice, Sweetness.